Picture a man in his 20s boarding the bus after work on any given afternoon. Being the young, virile man that he is, he routinely casts a glance across the patrons of the bus. Almost immediately, the man finds himself thinking how plain all the women on the bus look, particularly compared to the idealised (as opposed to normalised) images of women that he has been exposed to throughout his life in movies, video clips and on magazine covers. This thought stays with him until his eyes pan across to a blonde woman who sits on the left hand side of the bus, and whom forces his eyes to fixate on her. A few seconds later, he catches himself, snaps out of it, and begins making his way down the aisle as the other passengers boarding the bus become impatient.
My question is, why is a man drawn to the blonde in such a situation?
Firstly, let’s think about preferences. I know that I like a particular style of music because it sounds good, just like I know I enjoy certain foods because they taste good. I might like the scent of women’s perfume, or freshly cut grass, or the rain after a hot day, because they smell good. And I know that as I fall asleep at night during the cold winter months, I adore my flannelette sheets because they feel so soft. As you can see, all these things are based on sensual experiences.
And then we come to attraction. Why is it that men like blondes? Well, the logical conclusion is that men like blondes because they look good. And yet, what is essentially a sensual experience, is deemed shallow by society. Liking a woman because they are blonde makes males feel guilty – and yet, blondes don’t have a sound, or smell, or taste and thus have no other basis for sensory judgement! So why shouldn’t we be shallow?
For me, the interesting thing that really undermines the male infatuation with blondes is that despite the fact that very few adult women have naturally blonde hair, men continue to buy into it, seeing them as ‘more attractive’. As Marilyn Monroe herself said:
“There’s only one sort of natural blonde on earth – albinos”
And yet, for some reason, males continue to divert their attention to blondes – the women who takes the hour or two to turn their hair from dark to light.
So why do males do this? Why do men pursue the blonde, and find attraction in them, when we know that indeed any girl could choose to have blonde hair if she wants – in almost a moment’s notice?
While I have neither the means nor the opportunity, I would love to undertake this simple test involving the following steps to examine the impact simple hair colour can have on the male’s perception of them:
- First, take an average looking woman with black or brunette hair.
- Have her walk past a construction site full of men on their smokeo, observing their reaction to her presence. Five minutes later, have her walk past again.
- That night, dye her hair blonde.
- The following day, have walk her past the same construction site full of men on their smokeo again, re-observing their reaction to her presence. Five minutes later, have her walk past again.
What do you think the difference between their responses would be? I think you know!
So why can’t males see past this illogical, unreasoned and irrational obsession and focus more on the things that can’t be changed in a moment’s notice? Things like personality, temperament, patience, or, if you really must be ‘shallow’, their body, which at least requires a few months at the gym and a radical change in diet to meet our blurred and sexually objectifying perspective of ‘attractiveness’! You see, I’m not saying that blonde women can’t be (or even aren’t) attractive, nor that these other things don’t influence a male’s perspective of a blonde, just questioning whether the level of obsession and infatuation with the hair is rational.
I think that the reason we can’t see past this illogical and irrational thinking because in most cases we don’t have the opportunity to gain the information required to judge someone on their character, and so we do the next best thing – we use their hair colour. From this, we then make internal assumptions about the woman, based on the iconic blondes of Brittany Spears, Marilyn Monroe, Grace Kelly, Anna Kournikova, Jessica Simpson and Pamela Anderson. I’m sure I don’t need to go into too much detail, but each of these women have obviously been highly publicised sexual icons, and thus it is easy for men to transport the blonde around them into the ideologies of their mind.
All in all I challenge you: next time you catch yourself idealising something that reflects an ideology developed by the media and society, stop and ask yourself just how different that really is from the normality around you. You might just realise that indeed every girl on the bus could be the blonde.